Last year I was asked to contribute an essay to an anthology focusing on stories of the “breakup” of friendships between women. We all know and talk about male/female breakups and the grieving process (or not) of those. I am honored to be a part of this project.
I wrote a piece about being betrayed by a friend because of my involvement in the Steubenville case. There were others who turned their backs on me for whatever reasons, but this particular person was one that to this day I don’t understand, and honestly don’t think I ever will understand it.
The essay is about the emotions of dealing with the betrayal and the breaches of confidence that were used as leverage to either try to shame or humiliate me. I don’t know…it’s still hard to dissect how the heck it even all started. I usually don’t share personal information about my life, but for this I felt like I needed to divulge the facts of some of the outright lies that were told about me. I haven’t done that before. For over two years I have basically sat back and said nothing in defense of myself nor posted rebuttals to some of the garbage that has been put out there about me.
I hope that my short essay will provide a glimpse into the private side of me and that my old friend and I will have some sort of closure. It is available for pre-order on Amazon and will be available for sale in March 2015.
Candid, relatable stories by established and emerging women writers about being discarded by someone from whom they expected more: a close female friend. There are 161 million women in America today, and our friendships are still as primary and universal as back when Ruth and Naomi, Elizabeth and Susan B., and Thelma and Louise made history. When a romantic relationship breaks up, no problem—there’s an Adele song for that. Health concerns; problems in school; issues at the workplace? We’ve got our chums to prop us up. Until we don’t. When our most sustaining relationships dissolve—those with the women friends in our lives—there’s never been the fanfare that accompanies the loss of other relationships society deems “more important.” Until now. In Dumped: Stories of Women Unfriending Women, twenty-five established and emerging writers—including Jacquelyn Mitchard, Ann Hood, Carrie Kabak, Jessica Handler, Elizabeth Searle, Alexis Paige, and editor Nina Gaby—explore the fragile, sometimes humorous, and often unfathomable nature of lost friendship. These, like your own, are stories that stay with you—maybe for a lifetime