Last year I was asked to contribute an essay to an anthology focusing on stories of the “breakup” of friendships between women. We all know and talk about male/female breakups and the grieving process (or not) of those. I am honored to be a part of this project.
I wrote a piece about being betrayed by a friend because of my involvement in the Steubenville case. There were others who turned their backs on me for whatever reasons, but this particular person was one that to this day I don’t understand, and honestly don’t think I ever will understand it.
The essay is about the emotions of dealing with the betrayal and the breaches of confidence that were used as leverage to either try to shame or humiliate me. I don’t know…it’s still hard to dissect how the heck it even all started. I usually don’t share personal information about my life, but for this I felt like I needed to divulge the facts of some of the outright lies that were told about me. I haven’t done that before. For over two years I have basically sat back and said nothing in defense of myself nor posted rebuttals to some of the garbage that has been put out there about me.
I hope that my short essay will provide a glimpse into the private side of me and that my old friend and I will have some sort of closure. It is available for pre-order on Amazon and will be available for sale in March 2015.
Candid, relatable stories by established and emerging women writers about being discarded by someone from whom they expected more: a close female friend. There are 161 million women in America today, and our friendships are still as primary and universal as back when Ruth and Naomi, Elizabeth and Susan B., and Thelma and Louise made history. When a romantic relationship breaks up, no problem—there’s an Adele song for that. Health concerns; problems in school; issues at the workplace? We’ve got our chums to prop us up. Until we don’t. When our most sustaining relationships dissolve—those with the women friends in our lives—there’s never been the fanfare that accompanies the loss of other relationships society deems “more important.” Until now. In Dumped: Stories of Women Unfriending Women, twenty-five established and emerging writers—including Jacquelyn Mitchard, Ann Hood, Carrie Kabak, Jessica Handler, Elizabeth Searle, Alexis Paige, and editor Nina Gaby—explore the fragile, sometimes humorous, and often unfathomable nature of lost friendship. These, like your own, are stories that stay with you—maybe for a lifetime
CAMERON -The Cameron High School community is questioning a controversial call made at a Friday night game that resulted in a senior football player being ejected from the game and suspended for two games, with one of those games being “Senior Night.”Senior Dalton Wood was ejected from the Cameron-Beallsville game after a referee accused him of kicking an opposing player who was laying on the ground. However, due to a video of the alleged incident circulating on social media, many say they fail to see the supposed kick.
Making some residents even more upset is that there is no appeals process for ejections from games in West Virginia and Ohio.
For starters, I’m not an avid football watcher but to me – it doesn’t look like a kick. What it looks like is that he was trying to push himself up by pushing his leg out for thrust. But …that’s not the purpose of this particular blog entry. The purpose is the outrage from the local community over an alleged KICK as opposed to let’s say…CONVICTED RAPE. I don’t think it’s a stretch for me to feel a wee bit aggravated at the number of commenters who are voicing their opinion about this suspension when just a short 50 miles up the river, there is a school that has a registered sex offender being applauded and glorified as he runs across the field every Friday night.
Continue reading Alleged Kicking Grounds for Suspension…but RAPE? PLAY BALL #STEUBENVILLE!!
Since being outed Deborah Still aka Jordan_Renee91 has pulled the “I was h4x0r3d” excuse and continues to dig her hole a little deeper on Twitter. I am going to update this post and continue to post screenshots of all the Shrew Crew on the forum because it is important for people to realize that the kids behaved badly for a reason…the adults in their lives. These people are bullies, liars, and victim blamers.
She has already alerted her work but she’s “not Deb”. She has no desire to make anyone jobless, but she and her crew of hateful pals have not only threatened to contact employers, identified employers of those who they disagree with and have tweeted to employers…BUT she is worried about her own conduct at her employer? REALLY? It sure hasn’t stopped her from Tweeting to my business account or others and maligning me and my business. In short, DEBORAH…karma is a bitch and if someone does contact your employer and it is found that you abused their services and/or used their internet to harass, malign, bully or intimidate others – you are going to be hard pressed to find anyone to shed a tear for you.
Deborah Still thought it was fair game to go after my deceased father on Twitter because I “talked shit” on Coach Reno Saccoccia because rather than placing the
Continue reading Deborah Still Reaches for the Sky
I’m going to continue updating this throughout the day in an effort to highlight why people are so disgusted with residents of Steubenville, Ohio. Read for yourself how some of the locals talk about this case. Down right shameful.
Funny, I didn’t see any of you tough talking big red haters at the game protesting! Talking loud and saying nothing! Just like I thought!
Because nothing matters more than Big Red football…even rape.
Mac McQuown: Scammer and one who has stolen valor.
A few months ago I did a blog piece on Leonard Dale “Mac” McQuown, a man from Florida who had been walking across the United States claiming that his good deed was being done for the benefit of homeless veterans. In 2011 McQuown allegedly founded a charitable organization called Operation Walk America. McQuown used the “organization” as a ruse to solicit funds and convert them to personal use when no legally registered 501(c)(3) organization existed. During the course of his “walk” and not so charitable fundraiser he defrauded many, including being at the center of romance scams along the way.
McQuown has no boundaries where his fraud is concerned. If using the plight of homeless veterans is not bad enough, he has also played on the sympathies of individuals who he deceived into believing were donating an Apple iPad to a wounded veteran who was in a wheelchair and paraplegic. As it would turn out, the photograph that he used in which he claimed was that of a paraplegic woman from California, was actually one that he found on the web from 2005. He used the picture for the purpose of defrauding a wounded veterans program. McQuown claimed that the woman had been
Continue reading Public Warning: Scammer Mac McQuown At It Again
Last week Ma’lik Richmond rejoined the Steubenville High School football team and the fallout from the school and school board’s decision was huge. Huge enough that several petitions were started and the change.org petition “Remove convicted rapist from Big Red football team” has already reached almost 40,000 signatures. That is more signatures than the entire population of Steubenville, Ohio. That is 4 times more people than their 10,000 seat football stadium holds.
On Tuesday, local businessman, Mark Nelson attended a Steubenville City Council meeting and stood before the council to ask that they make a public statement regarding the decision to allow Ma’lik back on the football team for Steubenville High School.
“I am asking council to draft a statement because the world looks at Steubenville and doesn’t see a public outcry. Some of us are outraged because the school district is not handling the situation properly,” Nelson said. “The school district lowered the bar to accept someone who committed a crime against a woman. What does this say about the team and its players? This is especially grievous when it makes the national and international news.”The school district decision was not well thought out and I encourage the city to make a statement to the world that we all don’t feel this way,” Nelson added.
– See more at: http://www.theintelligencer.net/page/content.detail/id/609107/Businessman-Outraged-by-Ma-Lik-R—.html
Do you want to know how Steubenville City Council responded? They essentially told the world again that they don’t care about rape. City Councilman Kenny Davis claims that his town has been unfairly painted in a negative light because of the rape case but via his very words this evening he affirmed that conception about Steubenville. When referring to the VICTIM he referred to her as “his accuser”. OH REALLY! Accuser? The boys were adjudicated delinquent by a judge; therefore the accusation was proven and determined to be the crime of RAPE. Why couldn’t Mr. Davis refer to Jane Doe as the victim? As far as I am concerned his statement gives the appearance that he doesn’t believe a rape occurred. What was so difficult about calling it what it is? Accuser is so disrespectful and minimizes what happened to Jane Doe.
THAT is why people are mad, Mr. Davis. The victim blaming that continues to occur is despicable. The fact that Ma’lik was allowed to return to the field sends the message that there is no accountability for criminal conduct. What are others on the team to think? That it’s okay to rape because you’ll still be on the team? Steubenville educators and administrators went out of their way to protect a football program over the victim – even so far as committing felonies to do so.
Davis claims that the town has been “unfairly” painted in a negative light. Let me break it down for you, Mr. Davis. It does not matter that your town has more churches than bars. That means jack all. A rape happened in your town and there was an attempted coverup by Mike McVey and others. Adults in your town maligned a young girl and victim blamed her and continue to do so.
Your town is being painted in a bad light because of your behavior and the continued enabling of rape culture. No one cares if you are a lifelong Catholic; again that has jack to do with anything. We’re talking about the decision to let a Tier II registered sex offender back on the field. Forgiveness has nothing to do with it either. Where in your word vomit did you say one word about Jane Doe? What about her? What about her second chance? Does she get a do over?
I don’t think you have to worry about people coming to Steubenville and staying. From the looks of things it would appear that people are going to avoid Rapeville like the plague.
The following is part one of a series involving a 2014 New Mexico double murder trial. I look forward to your responses to this case and discussing the court system process in America. – Ella Mentry Find me on Twitter @EllamentryMDW
We have seen it on the weekly network crime shows. The defense attorney never reveals whether or not his or her client is guilty of murder. It makes no difference. The job is all about reasonable doubt and convincing 12 men and women of its existence.
We begin with some background. Just before dawn on August 2, 2005 a 911 came into the dispatch center of the Albuquerque Police Department (APD). Renee Ohlemacher, 20, was on the other end of the line claiming to be hiding in her bedroom closet because she had heard shouting, screams and gunshots coming from her parents’ room across the hall, followed by heavy hurried footsteps pounding down the stairs.
Continue reading Reasonable Doubt
Nothing says “we don’t need no danged ol’ accountability here” like allowing educators charged with failing to report child abuse to be back in a position to keep a watchful eye out for the safety of children. *sarcasm* If the residents of Steubenville want to figure out why the world looks down at their town with an air of disgust, they should be asking their school board what the heck they were thinking by allowing individuals who are accused of failure to report child abuse to be allowed back to work overseeing the safety and well-being of school children.
Updated: Wednesday, December 4 2013, 11:15 AM EST By: NEWS9
STEUBENVILLE, Ohio — Two Steubenville City Schools employees who were indicted by a special grand jury have been permitted to return to work. The school board returned Lynnett Gorman and Seth Fluharty to their positions effective Dec. 9., according to a news release from the district.
On Wednesday, the Steubenville Board of Education released the following statement:
“After learning that three School District employees were indicted by a special grand jury convened by Ohio Attorney General Mike DeWine, the Board of Education of Steubenville City Schools placed the indicted employees on administrative leave. After review with legal counsel and Ohio professional organizations the Board returned Lynnett Gorman and Seth Fluharty to their positions as of December 9, 2013. The two employees have good work records and are presumed innocent until proven guilty.
The Board has no information about the evidence leading to these charges, and any questions about the charges or the criminal investigation should be directed to the office of the Ohio Attorney General.
Our primary focus is on making sure the School District is able to conduct the business of educating our students.” Superintendent Mike McVey Gorman and Fluharty were all put on paid administrative leave on Nov. 25 after Ohio Attorney General Mike DeWine announced their indictments.
Gorman, principal of West Elementary School, is charged with failure to report child abuse or neglect while acting in official capacity in a school district, which is a fourth-degree misdemeanor. Fluharty is charged with failure to report child abuse or neglect while acting in official capacity in a school district, which is a fourth-degree misdemeanor. He is a wrestling coach at Steubenville High School and elementary school teacher.
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October 23, 2013
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Second Indictment Issued by
Steubenville Special Grand Jury
(STEUBENVILLE, Ohio)—Ohio Attorney General Mike DeWine today announced that a second indictment has been issued in the special grand jury reviewing whether additional crimes were committed regarding the Steubenville teen rape case.
Hannah M. Rhinaman, 20, of Mingo Junction, was indicted by the grand jury on the following counts:
- Two counts of Receiving Stolen Property, a fifth degree felony
- One count of Grand Theft, a fifth degree felony
The charges against Hannah Rhinaman are related to incidents that occurred at Steubenville City Schools. However, the charges are separate and unrelated to the previous indictment issued against her father, William Rhinaman, on October 7.
If convicted on all counts, Hannah Rhinaman could be sentenced to up to three years in prison.
The grand jury adjourned today until a future date to be determined.
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