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Teens Savagely Beat Disabled Woman

Three Pennsylvania teens are currently in police custody waiting to be charged as adults for aggravated assault and other related offenses while the other three are supposed to turn themselves in. On Monday or Tuesday night, the six teens viciously attacked and beat a 48-year old mentally disabled woman while one of them used her cell phone to record the assault. They then posted the video on Facebook; obviously more dumb teens believing that it was cool to brag about criminal behavior. Thankfully, it caught the attention of a local parent who reported it to police. Without the information being reported by the parent, police Commissioner Joseph Bail said that the crime could have gone unnoticed. In a way, I am glad these girls are dumb as rocks, otherwise no one would have known about the attack because the victim did not report it to police.

Girl in NC Amber Alert Found Safe in South Florida

On Monday an Amber Alert was issued for a 12-year old girl from Cartaret County, North Carolina. According to the Carteret County Sheriff’s Office, she was last seen by her father at home on Sunday at approximately 10 p.m. When he awoke Monday morning at approximately 6:25, he noticed that she was missing.

Felony warrants were issued for Timothy Newman. I assume after viewing cell phone activity, law enforcement determined that he had been communicating with the female child. Newman’s roommate also confirmed that they had been texting each other for several weeks - every night. As it turns out, Timothy Howard Newman was also known to the family. He lived across the street from the girl’s grandmother. And for the bonus round, he is also a registered sex offender who was convicted in 2004 of two counts of Sexual Offense with Certain Victims. He was incarcerated for two years and served three years of probation. The girl’s father stated he had no idea that this man would run off with his daughter. Color me stupid, but uh…he’s a sex offender! That means they cannot EVER be trusted around children. EVER.

Newman and the child were found tonight in south Florida. I cannot stress enough that parent’s need to know what their children are doing at ALL times when it involves use of the internet and texting. You pay the bills and it is just too easy for predators to have contact with children online if you aren’t hyper-vigilant - and in this case - it happened right under the father’s nose. There are several programs available to install on the cell phone to view incoming and outgoing texts. I know we have a few techies on here who could probably recommend some good monitoring programs.

I’m just glad this child was found safe and will return to her family.

A Silent Epidemic

Several years back, I became involved in trying to give an unidentified woman her name back. She was found off of a service road in Brazoria County, Texas. This area of Texas has become known as “the killing fields”. There were many murdered women who were dumped in and around this area in Brazoria County. September 10, 1990, when a local pulled off of the road to relieve himself, he found skeletal remains near an old tire. With the remains was jewelry; one being a 1975 class ring from Robert E. Lee High School. According to the medical examiner, her remains had been there for a few years. No one knew who she was. To this day, she remains unidentified.

What intrigued me about this particular case was the Class of 1975 Robert E. Lee High School class ring that was on her finger. The school was located in Houston, Texas, and has since been renamed “Lee High School”. One would think that this would be a great clue and would make the chore of identifying her very easy. That proved not to be the case. During this time, I had a website that was a database of sorts and contained information on many missing and unidentified person. It was called someoneknowsme.com.

Unidentified missing always make me sad because they have been found, but their families may wait for years or may never know that their loved one’s remains were found. They have a name, but no one knows it until DNA is matched, and sometimes that takes a very long time. That was the thinking behind the website name — someone knows me. This girl did not have a name, and as an act of respect we gave her the name “Princess Blue” signifying the color of the stone inlaid into the class ring. My former admin at someoneknowsme.com, myself and others found a Robert E. Lee High School 1975 yearbook for sale on ebay and purchased it. We harvested the names of students from the Class of 1975 and searched tirelessly to find their location, and sent hundreds of letters out with Princess Blue’s composite and a photo of the ring hoping that someone knew who this young lady was, or might have heard of someone whose daughter was missing. The ring was a woman’s ring, size 9.5 and had been upsized twice, from an original 7.5. Because of the resizing, any markings or initials in the band would have been wiped out. We realized this was a long shot, but was worth the effort just in case.

Princess Blue was too young to have graduated in 1975. When the medical examiner did a second study of her remains it was determined that she was white, but with some ­African-American ancestry and around 17-21 years old. We had been in contact with the detectives on her case, and provided all of the information that we had gathered, as well as a photo overlay that I had done of Princess Blue and a missing woman named Kimberly Cheatham.

Kimberly was last seen in Dallas, Texas on April 12, 1989. She was supposed to go to a cousin’s residence to do her laundry, but never arrived there. She has never been heard from again. A short time after Cheatham’s disappearance, her car was found abandoned outside of Dallas, covered with brush. There was no sign of her at the scene. She is believed to have been taken against her will. Few details are available in Kimberly’s case. It is suspected that she met with foul play. When the overlay was done on Princess Blue’s composite and Kimberly’s photo, we were hopeful that we had identified her. We had been able to locate Kimberly’s mother and facilitate her DNA swab to be submitted into CODIS so an analysis could be initiated to determine if she was Princess Blue. Kimberly’s mother was getting up in her years and her words to me were that she did not want to leave this world without locating her daughter. Understandably, this was heartbreaking to hear her pain in not knowing where her child was. Her DNA was submitted and it was not a match. Continue reading A Silent Epidemic

The Internet and You

Yesterday a Greek Orthodox priest was arrested for attempting to meet who he thought was a 14 year old and a 9-year old boy for sexual encounters at a location in Columbus, Ohio. He had placed an ad online seeking out children for sex, and a detective responded. All too often we hear about those who are “trusted adults” in our communities soliciting children online. It is a problem that many parents don’t want to think about. Crimes against children are atrocious and sometimes it is easier to just put it out of our minds rather than acknowledge that stranger danger is out there.

For weeks as we have had discussions on this blog about the recent rape case in Steubenville, I have repeatedly stressed that parents need to take a proactive stance in their child’s online activities and monitor social media and computer use. Allowing a child unfettered access to the internet is akin to inviting danger into your household. You do not know who is on the other side of a screen name or who may be viewing your child’s social media. As with the boys who broadcast their activities online, something of this nature becomes a parent’s worst nightmare. I have monitored many Twitter accounts over the past few weeks in the course of my research on the Steubenville case, and have seen full names and addresses innocently posted while proudly displaying new driver’s licenses, and also photos of teenagers drinking and using drugs. Surely their parents do not know that these types of images are being posted online.

It is a new age and technology offers the ability to post bad choices in a matter of keystrokes or click of a cell phone camera. All parents should be taking a proactive stance in monitoring their child’s internet presence. I am going to be posting some resources in the forum for anyone to utilize so that they can monitor their children, and for those who feel they cannot do it on their own, my company can provide social media profiles. Anyone wanting additional information or some tips can email me or leave a comment. I am happy to share my knowledge.

#SupportSurvivorsOhio - Wear a Badge

Please show your support by placing a “twibbon” on your Facebook pages and twitter photos. It is very simple to do. We are also working to get teal ribbons to wear on Friday to show support for Ohio Survivors of sexual violence. You can email me for details if you want to be involved in bringing awareness. Thanks.

You can add your twibbon by clicking here: http://twibbon.com/cause/SupportSurvivorsOhio

Sept 14th #SupportSurvivorsOhio

I have seen A LOT of victim blaming going on - not only here but elsewhere. I have allowed the comments, because I want people to have a platform to speak. However, with that decision comes a heavy heart from reading these comments. I want to apologize to all survivors of rape who are out there on behalf of the simple-minded individuals who make those comments. NO ONE deserves to get raped. NO ONE asks for it.

On September 14, the date of the first hearing in the Steubenville case, the Ohio Alliance to End Sexual Violence requests your support and solidarity to take a stand against sexual violence.

  • Show your support to survivors everywhere by wearing teal that day, which represents awareness of sexual assault.
  • Post Facebook or Twitter messages that show you #SupportSurvivorsOhio.
  • Start a conversation in your community or write a letter to the editor of your newspaper about ending the culture of silence and start by believing survivors.


Donations SAHC

I was asked about where to send donations to Sexual Assault Help Center in Steubenville. I reached out to Sandra from the agency and she sent me this email. You can email Sandra Lyons at [email protected]. By emailing, you can detailed information from her with regards to donations.

Thanks so much!!

We Didn't Know What Rape Was

MARK COLE:

Mark Cole II, 17, said the victim was leaving one house and was so intoxicated she could barely walk.

“She wasn’t capable of walking on her own and was stumbling as walking,” Cole said.

Cole said he shot a video of sexual conduct in his car between Mays and the victim as they were driving to Cole’s house. Cole said he later deleted the video from his phone.

He said, at his house, Mays attempted to get the victim to perform oral sex on Mays.

Cole said it “wasn’t his place to determine if there was a sexual assault. He said he didn’t believe it was necessary to call his mother, who wasn’t at home, another adult or the police.

Cole did say the victim wasn’t moving at his house when the sexual assault took place.

He said Richmond was lying beside her with his hands around her groin area but couldn’t tell if Richmond was sexually touching the victim. He said he didn’t intervene because he didn’t at any time see the conduct by the defendants as “forceful.” Source: Mark Law, Herald Star

While on the stand Mark Cole incriminated himself. Filming or photographing a nude minor is the manufacture of child pornography under the state laws of Ohio and under federal law. Yet he remains AT LARGE. Mark Cole’s claims that it wasn’t his place to determine if there was a sexual assault are despicable. Did his parents do that piss poor of a job raising him that he doesn’t know that a comatose female does not have the ability to consent and that DECENT men do not take advantage of females who are passed out? Historically, men who have sex with women who are comatose are charged with RAPE. Surely, someone who RECORDED VIDEO of what is legally considered child porn would KNOW that if someone cannot say NO — that means it is rape! Right? Would he let someone have sex with a female relative if they were incapacitated? In his world, it’s not rape according to his skewed thought process? The state said the video had been deleted, could not be retrieved and that because of that, Mark Cole was not facing charges even though he ADMITTED UNDER OATH that he recorded what amounts to child porn. Hmmm, how’s that happen unless a deal has been offered?

EVAN WESTLAKE: Poor Evan was also so scared and “stunned” about what was happening that he had to pause for a moment to post to social media, and upload a video on Youtube. How about on his way to Mark Cole’s house? Was he scared and stunned while his friend was videotaping sex acts involving the victim? Didn’t he know then that this was wrong? How stunned was he when he uploaded video to his Youtube account in which Michael Nodianos gave a play by play of what was happening? Was he also documenting this in case the victim forgot and needed to be reminded of what had happened to her? These are guys that you want to leave your teenage daughters alone with, right? These are guys that you should be applauding as they rush across the field, right?

Evan Westlake, 17, said he was at Cole’s house and was getting ready to leave when he saw the victim naked on her side. He said the victim wasn’t moving.

Westlake said Richmond was beside her and performing a sexual act and Mays was smacking his penis off her side.

When asked why he didn’t help, Westlake said, “I was stunned with what I saw. I wanted to get out of there. I didn’t know what to do.”

What did Evan Westlake do? He was SO STUNNED with what he saw that HE MADE A VIDEO and posted it on youtube featuring his good pal, Michael Nodianos aka Nodi yapping about a “dead girl”. She was so incapacitated that they referred to her as “the dead body” or the dead girl.

 

He was so stunned that he took to Twitter to tell all of his pals how upset he was. He and Nodianos were obviously beside themselves with fear and confusion. I bet they were shaking so hard they had to console each other because it was just so horrifying. They quickly got over their fear and confusion about what was happening and created youtube videos instead.

 

ANTHONY CRAIG: Here’s another standup guy who took a picture of the incident in case the victim didn’t know what was happening, even though he tweeted to Trent Mays that “Chris Hanson” was his worst nightmare. We all know who Chris Hanson is. Did Anthony Craig think that Chris Hanson would understand that photos have to be taken of comatose victims – you know…just in case they don’t remember anything or was it because the videos involved an underage girl who was nude and being sexually assaulted? Anthony Craig thought better of reminding the victim. Instead, he deleted the evidence from his cellphone. How come? It was important to remind the rape victim what happened according to his testimony. Did you have a change of heart, Anthony?

Anthony Craig, 18, said he could see the victim getting more drunk throughout the night.

“Just the way she handled herself and was walking and talking to people,” Craig said.

He said he went to Cole’s house where Cole showed him a video of what happened in Cole’s car.

Craig, who admitted to having a relationship with the victim, said he saw the victim naked in Cole’s basement. He said he saw Richmond laying beside her but couldn’t tell what Richmond was doing. He said Mays was smacking his penis off her side.

Craig said the victim was not responsive or participating.

Craig said he tried to tell Mays, his best friend, to stop it, and told him not to do anything he will regret.

Craig said Mays told him, “It is all right … don’t worry.”

When asked how it feels to testify against his friend, Craig said. “It kills me.”

Craig said he took a picture of the incident in case the victim didn’t know what was happening. He said he later deleted the picture from his cell phone.

Craig testified Mays sent him a naked picture of the victim the next day.

Just color me disgusted. I’m ashamed to have to share my oxygen with SUPERSTARS like them.

Author note: I have turned off comments to all Steubenville articles at this time but am leaving the posts up so that this crime does not go unforgotten!

Some people deserve to be peed on #whoareyou

“Some people deserve to be peed on #whoareyou ”

It is a distasteful statement when made in the context that it was. It is even more distasteful to think that it was posted to brag.

When I found this particular tweet during my research about the allegations of rape at Steubenville High School, I sat in front of my screen in disbelief. I tried to let the words sink in. I was repulsed because I knew the context in which this statement was made and then I became very angry. Angry that another human being would find even a morsel of pleasure regarding such a sadistic act. There is not a lot to say about this particular tweet. I will let the words of its author speak for themselves.

 

You can see the cache of this tweet and retweets by clicking the screenshot or by clicking here.

Steubenville Big Red Rape Accusations: The Other Perpetrators

On August 11, students from Steubenville High School or “Big Red” as it is known locally, attended various end of the summer parties in the Ohio Valley. That night while in attendance at a party that was allegedly held at a COACH’s home, underage students were drinking to celebrate the end of the summer. For many in attendance, it was the end of their high school journey and they were moving on to attend various colleges. I do not have all the facts, and have read many accounts of what transpired, but the end result was a young girl was brutally raped and attacked by members of the Steubenville High football team and it was videotaped and posted on the internet. I am not solely pointing the finger at the football team because there were boys who took part in this attack who were also on the wrestling team, baseball team and track teams. The point is these boys represented the school and their respective teams. Playing high school sports is not a right. It is a privilege and with that privilege comes a higher responsibility to represent yourself and your school in a manner that will not taint the reputation of your school. Athletes should be role models for other students, and in this case - they were not.

The student athletes who participated are not the only ones guilty of disseminating the attack of a defenseless girl, but the students who saved the video to their cellphones or who retweeted and reposted the video attack and talked inappropriately about the victim are just as guilty of smearing the reputation of their school, as well as guilty of disseminating criminal material. So, in a nutshell YES this behavior represents their school and will have long running implications on every student who has ever attended Big Red. Big Red will now forever be known as that high school where the kids who raped that girl attended.

I have been reading tweets and posts online for the past few days and I can tell you that I am DISGUSTED. TRULY and UTTERLY DISGUSTED at the things being posted by those who were in attendance of this brutal attack or the posts by their girlfriends who are disparaging the victim’s reputation. I am disgusted with the students who are protecting their friends and tweeting “Oh, ______ better not get in trouble for this.“ Tweet after tweet has been filled with support for the boys who were arrested, as well as vowing their support and willingness to stick together because they are “#StuebenvilleStarsForever”. No, you are not stars. You are criminals who are walking around right now on borrowed time.

The other students and former students of Big Red have yet to be charged with anything as of yet — even though they were present and they participated in the dissemination of the videotaped attack. The coach who had a party with alcohol in which minors were in attendance has neither been named or charged as of yet. I know the names and for now will not post them, but will provide screenshots of the tweets that were deleted from their accounts. I also have the name of the football player who posted the video online. The video and the Youtube channel were deleted by its owner - more than likely in attempt to save his butt and cover up his part in the crime. He also deleted his Twitter account. I have screenshots of that, too. Not only was it being sent via phone, but it has been downloaded and saved by others. ALL of these individuals who have in their possession or who have sent this video have participated in disseminating material involving the sexual assault of a minor.

I have seen much victim blaming from these kids as well as adults. Every time someone posts a comment about why was she at this party or didn’t her parents teach her any better - is revictimizing the victim. Many seem not to care that she was victimized by these kids only that the ones who took part are still suiting up each week to play football. I have seen posts where adults are stating this may be a “false accusation” and comparing it to the Duke Lacrosse team rape allegations. She was PASSED OUT! How in the world did she have a say in what was going on? I can ASSURE you that these boys KNEW what they did was rape. One of them tweeted the Nirvana video “Rape Me” after the other said the song of the night should be “rape me”.

There are screenshots of the video that was posted with tags “rape” and “drunk girl” . Tagging the video with the word “rape” clearly shows their knowledge of the crime. Did they think because they are star athletes that no one was going to do anything to them? Is their status as star athletes permission to do whatever they want without repercussion?

These boys have brought shame not only upon their own families, but on the community that supports them. They have also blighted the name of their school and anyone who attends it from this day forward. The parents who once beamed with pride while reading their sons’ names in the local paper will now read their names again but this time that pride will now be replaced with tears and shame.

To the other boys that were involved who are still free to go to class tomorrow morning, I can only hope that their time walking around as free men is limited. Tick tock.